Archive for August, 2008

A word to the partners of those experiencing impotence.

Wednesday, August 27th, 2008

Any man who is experiencing problems of sexual performance is feeling angry, frustrated and afraid of rejection. In other words, he feels exactly the same way that you do. If you do not deal with these problems, they fester and may ultimately destroy your relationship.

You’d better start discuss this problem with your partner. If you have read the rest of the information on this website, you have actually taken a vital first step because you have begun to learn about the problem and its causes.

You now need to bring your partner “up to speed”. Your action fully depend on character of your relationship. He already has considerable worry and anxiety about his inability to perform consistently (or at all). If you come over as confrontational, he will retreat even further into his shell. So you need to think about him as a person.

Whatever the approach you devise, should help to relieve the stress he is feeling and to build a spirit of co-operation between the two of you.

So many treatments for cancer and other serious conditions are effective because they are an early intervention. So many men find that more drastic measures are required because they delayed seeking diagnosis until it was almost or actually too late.

Talking about the risks of not seeing a doctor may separate the emotional overtones from the physical issues. Even if the worst should be confirmed, the quality of your relationship during the difficult days of treatment will be far better. Ignoring the problem will only lead to you feeling guilty because you failed to take action and resentment from him that his problems were undiagnosed. Supporting each other openly and honestly is always the best foundation for a relationship.

By whatever means it takes, you need to manoeuvre him towards your family doctor and access to diagnostic services and treatment. This may be the usual case that can be treated with Cialis. You will both be reassured and can begin to restore your mutual confidence in sexual activity. If there are more serious problems of blood circulation or nerve damage, work can begin to address the problems. If the cause is more psychological than physical, counselling may be a useful first step for both of you to take.

What is cognitive behavioural therapy?

Tuesday, August 26th, 2008

Because of the qualificated marketing politics viagra is now believed to be the best ED medication on the market. You can take as many pills marked Viagra, Cialis or Levitra as you like but, if your mind does not associate sexual stimulation with the response of an erection, nothing will happen. The difficulty is that you may not have learned how to make the appropriate sexual response at all, or have unlearned the response.

The first failures undermine confidence and produce fears that your erection’ll fail. These problems usually start among men who want to prolong intercourse by avoiding ejaculation. This is not unnatural. They are having so much pleasure, they want it to go on longer. All these fears cause erection to fail. To achieve this result, they have to reduce the level of arousal. When carried too far, the loss of arousal results in the loss of the erection. If this is not controlled, it can lead to the loss of erection occurring earlier and earlier until the man has difficulty in getting an erection at all and, through fear of embarrassment, begins to avoids sexual intimacy.

Your therapist’s first reaction will be to prohibit any kind of the sexual intercourse. You have to learn about the normal cycle of erections which naturally come and go during sexual activity. Clinical research (who gets these jobs?) shows that most men push for intercourse as soon as they get an erection. You can experiment and find out what activities are most stimulating in co-operative sexual activity with your partner. Indeed, you will probably find intimacy more interesting if your partner is more actively involved.The point of this therapy is to teach you that you can enjoy sexual activity without having an erection. Pleasure continues and that pleasure is not conditional on rushing straight into intercourse and orgasm. If you and your partner know that intercourse is not allowed, you need not feel under so much pressure. Listening and talking with her, learning about her needs should help you to see intercourse not as an end in itself but as part of a wider activity of generating mutual pleasure.

When you want to be an active partner, you must share your pleasure with the woman. Rebuilding the idea of sexual intimacy overcomes the fixed performance criterion. So the counsellor addresses the anxieties, inhibitions, anger and guilt that may be blocking real emotional feelings, and aims to replace them with thoughts, images, sensations and fantasies that can underpin a successful sexual relationships. In this, both parties have to take responsibility for their sexuality and sexual needs.

CBT therapists are trained to deal with a wide range of problems including sex. After several visits your condition must sufficiently improve. Once you have been started on the track to learn better sexual habits, you can begin to take Viagra, Cialis or Levitra as a reinforcement to maintain progress. But, in this, you should take the advice of your therapist.

Facts and speculations about weight gain.

Thursday, August 14th, 2008

There is one simple explanation for those extra pounds of weight. Too much food! The way the body works is very simple. If you get just enough calories for basic things like breathing, you have to burn fat to get the energy to walk around. Eat more calories than you need given your basal activity level, and your body puts on fat. Your body is actually protecting you against the next famine when you will have nothing to eat and need your fat to survive until the next sandwich comes along.

Now turn to many of the forum sites where people discuss their experience with zoloft. The general spirit of these posts is, “I weighed 120lb until I took zoloft. Now I am…”

A simple test rules out thyroid problems, one of the more common physical explanations for sudden weight gains and this leaves us with lack of exercise combined with overeating. . . and a side effect of zoloft. It is a natural association to make. You start taking a medication and immediately you put on five pounds with no obvious change in your diet or level of physical activity. So, let us start off by accepting that some people react to medications by putting on weight. Why? The medication may increase or decrease the basal metabolic rate. If this happens, your weight may fluctuate even though you do not change your caloric intake. In some people, the medication can cause hormonal changes and increase appetite. Increased levels of serotonin are also associated with hunger pangs which encourage you to eat more.

Now we are into the business of balancing the advantages and disadvantages of the particular medication. Let us say that zoloft has made a dramatic improvement in your emotional life. For the first time in months (or years), you do not feel (so) sad. If you have put on a few extra pounds, is that a price worth paying? Or will you get depressed again because your body has become less attractive? As a gentle warning, if your regular doctor asks you whether you want to try a different medication, zoloft causes less weight gain than the tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs) and monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs).

Back to denying the link. After all, the SSRIs were first promoted as anti-obesity medications. Like all decisions on whether to start a medication, you are dealing with unknowables. There is no doubt that some people eat more when they are depressed. Unless you have been keeping a food diary which counts calories, it will difficult to know how your eating habits have changed as the depression increased in intensity. You may already be putting on weight when you start taking the zoloft. Now let us reverse the psychological reaction. When people start feeling less depressed, they eat less and this reduces their weight. In other words, when the depression is cured, you may return to your healthy eating habits. Separating out the effect of the medication from the reality of the number of calories you eat is very difficult. It is easy to confuse coincidence with side effect.

So how should you react if you start zoloft and gain weight? Whatever else you may do, do not stop taking it. First, start counting calories properly. Start exercising. These are most likely to stabilise your weight. Only if you do change your diet and exercise to no effect, should you talk with your doctor. If self-help has failed, see what the professional recommends.