What is cognitive behavioural therapy?
Because of the qualificated marketing politics viagra is now believed to be the best ED medication on the market. You can take as many pills marked Viagra, Cialis or Levitra as you like but, if your mind does not associate sexual stimulation with the response of an erection, nothing will happen. The difficulty is that you may not have learned how to make the appropriate sexual response at all, or have unlearned the response.
The first failures undermine confidence and produce fears that your erection’ll fail. These problems usually start among men who want to prolong intercourse by avoiding ejaculation. This is not unnatural. They are having so much pleasure, they want it to go on longer. All these fears cause erection to fail. To achieve this result, they have to reduce the level of arousal. When carried too far, the loss of arousal results in the loss of the erection. If this is not controlled, it can lead to the loss of erection occurring earlier and earlier until the man has difficulty in getting an erection at all and, through fear of embarrassment, begins to avoids sexual intimacy.
Your therapist’s first reaction will be to prohibit any kind of the sexual intercourse. You have to learn about the normal cycle of erections which naturally come and go during sexual activity. Clinical research (who gets these jobs?) shows that most men push for intercourse as soon as they get an erection. You can experiment and find out what activities are most stimulating in co-operative sexual activity with your partner. Indeed, you will probably find intimacy more interesting if your partner is more actively involved.The point of this therapy is to teach you that you can enjoy sexual activity without having an erection. Pleasure continues and that pleasure is not conditional on rushing straight into intercourse and orgasm. If you and your partner know that intercourse is not allowed, you need not feel under so much pressure. Listening and talking with her, learning about her needs should help you to see intercourse not as an end in itself but as part of a wider activity of generating mutual pleasure.
When you want to be an active partner, you must share your pleasure with the woman. Rebuilding the idea of sexual intimacy overcomes the fixed performance criterion. So the counsellor addresses the anxieties, inhibitions, anger and guilt that may be blocking real emotional feelings, and aims to replace them with thoughts, images, sensations and fantasies that can underpin a successful sexual relationships. In this, both parties have to take responsibility for their sexuality and sexual needs.
CBT therapists are trained to deal with a wide range of problems including sex. After several visits your condition must sufficiently improve. Once you have been started on the track to learn better sexual habits, you can begin to take Viagra, Cialis or Levitra as a reinforcement to maintain progress. But, in this, you should take the advice of your therapist.